How to be cold?
February 10th, 2018
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Wanted to hear more personal opinions not doctors lol
Wanted to hear more personal opinions not doctors lol
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I’m not sure that’s a good idea. It’s good to feel some emotion and have empathy with other people. Listen to the Simon and Garfunkel song, “I am a rock” Do you really want to be like that?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPioSdlIERg
Yeap i do
Forget seeing the good in people – it doesn’t exist, people just convince themselves it does. Forget empathising with people, and feeling how they feel.
Humans are just not worth it.
This doesn’t mean you have no morals or ethics, it just means your ethics don’t include the problems of worrying about what other people think of you or feel about you.
Next time you watch a TV news article about some dead kid in some part of the world, say to yourself “Why the F* should I care..?” After a while you’ll stop.
Just remind yourself that humans are a waste of oxygen and space, you’ll get there in the end.
(Mind you, you have to be honest with yourself, you can’t do this then moan about not having a girlfriend (or any friend, for that matter), or not getting some puss on your knob – if you go this route, you have to stay the route, else you’ll end up twisted).
It’s a beautiful thing, being alone and totally self sufficient emotionally – no worrying about offending your wife/girl/boy friend, you end up not caring about some stupid human standing in the door of the shop talking to some other stupid human – you just say “Get the F* out of the way.” and keep walking forwards.
There’s an element of bravery involved too – you need to be able to drop your job, house, life at a moments notice and just sod off and do something else. No ties, no friends, no hangers-on.
Become a Vulcan, maybe. Pass the Kolinahr.
Kolinahr (ko-li-naar), as a word, describes both the Vulcan ritual by which all remaining vestigial emotions are demonstrated as purged, and the mental discipline whereby this state is subsequently maintained.
can’t really be helped…you are who you are…just deal with it
overdo it on prescription drugs
Forget seeing the good in people - it doesn't exist, people just convince themselves it does. Forget empathising with people, and feeling how they feel.
Humans are just not worth it.
This doesn't mean you have no morals or ethics, it just means your ethics don't include the problems of worrying about what other people think of you or feel about you.
Next time you watch a TV news article about some dead kid in some part of the world, say to yourself "Why the F* should I care..?" After a while you'll stop.
Just remind yourself that humans are a waste of oxygen and space, you'll get there in the end.
(Mind you, you have to be honest with yourself, you can't do this then moan about not having a girlfriend (or any friend, for that matter), or not getting some puss on your knob - if you go this route, you have to stay the route, else you'll end up twisted).
It's a beautiful thing, being alone and totally self sufficient emotionally - no worrying about offending your wife/girl/boy friend, you end up not caring about some stupid human standing in the door of the shop talking to some other stupid human - you just say "Get the F* out of the way." and keep walking forwards.
There's an element of bravery involved too - you need to be able to drop your job, house, life at a moments notice and just sod off and do something else. No ties, no friends, no hangers-on.
Nice one,thank you
The only thing that’d make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I’m kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i’ve turned out to be..so don’t recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.
The only thing that’d make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I’m kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i’ve turned out to be..so don’t recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.You just asked me and then asnwered to your own question.Dealing with life is much easier without big emotions.
Become a Vulcan, maybe. Pass the Kolinahr.
Kolinahr (ko-li-naar), as a word, describes both the Vulcan ritual by which all remaining vestigial emotions are demonstrated as purged, and the mental discipline whereby this state is subsequently maintained.Definately the best option, Vulcans show no emotion!
I am sure every1 from you guys was pressed by a life and emotions,and ofc every1 go through that,but how to make ourself to be cold and not be committed to things that much.Like persons,job and stuffs and to go easily with life problems?Dont ask why i posted this in helpdesk....So how to be cold or emotionless like some people say...Personality can’t be changed in one day.
It looks like you’ve got too much worries on your mind and you really need to relax. You mustn’t be affraid of anything (job,school,people on higher positions)
you just must act cool. Few years ago I was way different then I’m today. Everything had to be on their place but now I really don’t care.
Don’t let yourself down and be strong imo.
Trust me when I say you have no idea what it is you’re asking for. To be truly cold is to lose your very humanity. It’s a very dark path to choose for your emotions. Stay away from it
What you really want is apathy. That’s a teen thing and very easy to acquire.
To be, as you put it: “not be committed to things that much” just say no and stick with it. That’s it. If they persistently ask you, tell them to stop because it’s just not going to happen. You don’t have to not care, you simply have to not want to care. Be selfish and self absorbed without bothering with others. Ignore most things and get on with your own life. Eventually you’ll get used to it and it will become a part of your lifestyle, albeit something that does not attract very many people at all. But that’s what you want, so go for it.
you need to kill a man. also, emotions are what make us human.
One day I just woke up and said **** it, who give a ****? It was great! then I met my wife and had 2 kids, now I’m back at square one…sort of. Actually I’m probably even more self centered now, because all I care about is my family and everyone else can screw themselves. I feel for other people, but all I really care about is keeping myself and my family safe.
you need to kill a man. also, emotions are what make us human.Hahah you cant be serious:P
To be truly cold is to lose your very humanity. It's a very dark path to choose for your emotions. Stay away from it
What you really want is apathy. That's a teen thing and very easy to acquire.I’ve seen a lot of humanity, believe me it’s not worth much.
And there is nothing “teen” about apathy – I don’t mean what you probably mean – that fake teen angst that masquerades as apathy, I mean a true lack of care and consideration for the worthless teeming masses of meat sacks called humans.
A true belief that they are a waste of oxygen that could be better used by a cat/dog/whale/finch (anything non-human, actually).
To the OP – go watch “Love Actually”, the movie – if you feel depressed afterwards, you have a chance at attaining a state of coldness. If you feel uplifted, just go back to a normal human life, forget about coldness.
Love Actually depresses and despairs me entirely..
The only thing that’d make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I’m kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i’ve turned out to be..so don’t recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.I agree, life experiences make people act how they do. Usually when you’ve been wronged so many times you sort of dont give a crap any more about anyone. Treat life like business. You don’t care who you affect as long as you’re getting ahead. You don’t care who you have to step over or mow over, you’re doing better for yourself than others.
Do I agree with this? Not really, but I do think business minded sometimes and have to remind myself not to be so cold. People only really remember and care about those who did for others more than they did for themselves.
To be truly cold is to lose your very humanity. It's a very dark path to choose for your emotions. Stay away from it
What you really want is apathy. That's a teen thing and very easy to acquire.
I've seen a lot of humanity, believe me it's not worth much.
And there is nothing "teen" about apathy - I don't mean what you probably mean - that fake teen angst that masquerades as apathy, I mean a true lack of care and consideration for the worthless teeming masses of meat sacks called humans.
A true belief that they are a waste of oxygen that could be better used by a cat/dog/whale/finch (anything non-human, actually).
To the OP - go watch "Love Actually", the movie - if you feel depressed afterwards, you have a chance at attaining a state of coldness. If you feel uplifted, just go back to a normal human life, forget about coldness.
Love Actually depresses and despairs me entirely..I am not depressed or anything,i just realized lately that helps much more to be cold than emotional.And helps generally at life,i am not talking about love,family or anything like that.I just meant on life.And thank you people i didnt think i will get so many answers.
“Come as guest stay as family” really works:P
kyuubi92 wrote: Select all
The only thing that'd make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I'm kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i've turned out to be..so don't recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.
You just asked me and then asnwered to your own question.Dealing with life is much easier without big emotions.
sure but also more boring.
Answer #23
Better to be bored than hurted dont you think so?
Answer #24
Better to be bored than hurted dont you think so?
id say no. Besides if you try to bury it down because you got “hurt”.- Your kinda a wuzz. I mean… we all get hurt now and then. But then we gotta look forward and look for something better., “wanna be cold?” Just sounds like a desperate cry for help.- And im not trying to be harsh. But you asked and i answered.
Answer #25
I am not depressed or anything,i just realized lately that helps much more to be cold than emotional.And helps generally at life,i am not talking about love,family or anything like that.I just meant on life.And thank you people i didnt think i will get so many answers.
"Come as guest stay as family" really works:P
Oh, don’t get me wrong – I don’t mean depressed as in “sad sad, wanna kill myself” type cry for help rubbish – I mean despairing and sickened at humanity.
And, unfortunately, it’s close to impossible to be cold and emotionless AND still keep friends and family – the duality required will chew you up.
But, yes, if you can do the emotional dance with yourself, and can manage the warmth needed to keep friends and family, yet still maintain a detached view of the world in general, you WILL find it easier to handle a world view of life.
People think that life is all snuggley-wuggly, and it’s SO SO sad when a baby dies or a kid has cancer – it’s not, it’s just LIFE.
A human dies every second or so across earth, “A child dies of malaria every 30 seconds” (from a humanities web site), so what, that’s LIFE – it’s not fun, it’s not happy, it’s not nice, it just IS.
There’s no afterlife with harps and bloody angels, no ‘right hand of god’ (or dog for you dyslexics), at the end there may or may not be pain and suffering, wasting and blankness (not blackness – that’s still something), then worms and other bugs eat you, your bones degrade to dust, the world, the people forget you, almost as if you never where. In the life of the planet, you were never there anyway.
Life is a way of genetic code to replicate itself, when we see that, we stop thinking of innate goodness, moral virtue, working 40 a week for someone else to get richer and have a great life while we just get tired, rot, and die off.
When you acknowledge that, then you can cast of the shackles other people place on you so you fit THEIR beliefs in life, believe in yourself, and just go life your life the way you want to live it, whether that’s all lovey-dovey help the world or cold and closed and F* the world.
I prefer the latter – it feels more real.
Answer #26
yeah… even Rangers “soldiers” who are trained to follow orders and being all bad-ass have emotions. . . So its nothing you just go and get a piece of. . . What you are asking for is a psychiatric diagnosis. . . And thats not really that great. . .ive been stuck with one of those for 5+ years- And would i replace that with “no emotions” ? Not in a million years. So sorry pal.. Your not gonna find advice on “how to be cold” anywhere except weird cults asking you to cut yourself up.,
Answer #27
Of course they have emotions – they are all gung ho, save the USA, be the best, do it for the Union, etc, etc. Being a good killer does not make you emotionless and cold – these guys often have families and friends they love and cherish.
Answer #28
Of course they have emotions - they are all gung ho, save the USA, be the best, do it for the Union, etc, etc. Being a good killer does not make you emotionless and cold - these guys often have families and friends they love and cherish.
hehe thats my point. They cant switch of the emotions. neither can all the others.- If you can, , , theres a diagnosis involved.
Answer #29
kyuubi92 wrote: Select all
The only thing that'd make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I'm kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i've turned out to be..so don't recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.
You just asked me and then asnwered to your own question.Dealing with life is much easier without big emotions.
How do you know that? You’ve created a topic about wanting to feel no emotion, therefore you have not lived without emotion as of yet. How do you know life is easier that way?
Emotions make us who we are, who can’t flip a switch and drop them. Why you’d want to I don’t know, life is better when people care about you.
Answer #30
kyuubi92 wrote: Select all
The only thing that'd make you cold is life experience. Your life experience. & why do you wanna be cold? I'm kind of hated by most of the people that were my friends because of how cold i've turned out to be..so don't recommend that mate just deal with life as it is.
You just asked me and then asnwered to your own question.Dealing with life is much easier without big emotions.
How do you know that? You’ve created a topic about wanting to feel no emotion, therefore you have not lived without emotion as of yet. How do you know life is easier that way?
Emotions make us who we are, who can’t flip a switch and drop them. Why you’d want to I don’t know, life is better when people care about you.
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